I won't be able to tell you how long after I was born I could walk on my two legs, or speak with intelligible sounds, or defecate on a toilet while holding it back.
Between the time I started learning to recognize the alphabet 🔠 and the time I could read easily, I would say a few years passed.
Between the time I learned to count 🔢 and the time I could handle numbers in mathematical exercises, a few years also passed.
Between the time I sat behind the wheel of a car for the first time 🚗 and the time I got my license, several hours of lessons passed. Several thousands of kilometers later, I feel much more comfortable with the experience.
Would you feel like teaching me to sing ? What a challenge ! I think you will need a slew of patience, especially since I am not sure that I am physically equipped with the most effective tools so as not to hurt your ears.
If I ask you how long you did take to learn, some of you will tell me slower, others faster. The problem is that the reactions we show are often linked to that idea of being the first. This is to omit that 𝑛𝘰𝑡 𝑒𝘷𝑒𝘳𝑦 𝑝𝘦𝑜𝘱𝑙𝘦 𝘩𝑎𝘷𝑒 𝑡𝘩𝑒 𝑠𝘢𝑚𝘦 𝘣𝑎𝘤𝑘𝘨𝑟𝘰𝑢𝘯𝑑 𝑖𝘯 𝘭𝑖𝘧𝑒 : physical capacities, intellectual abilities, environments and available resources. The comparisons are therefore very treacherous.
🐶 For your dog, it’s the same! If the neighbors' dog was house-trained by his 3 months, which means he was able to refrain from urinating in the house, and yours by his 4 months, ɪᴛ's ᴀʟʀɪɢʜᴛ. If your dog needs to learn to come back when you call him from the garden to the house in 5 lessons while your neighbors' dog was able to do so in 2 lessons, ɪᴛ's ᴀʟʀɪɢʜᴛ.
Too often, we ask our dogs to perform tasks while forgetting that :
they do not understand our words
sometimes our gestures are not coherent
they need their behaviors to be reinforced to feel motivated to do them again
their learning can be contextual and some dogs are very picky
they also go through particular age phases
they are not robots and feel emotions
they have sometimes not acquired in a simple environment and are asked in a complicated one first.
Take the time to appreciate your dog as he is. He’s kind of slow on the uptake when you give him a puzzle where treats are hidden ? It’s alright ! I'm sure he has plenty of other qualities !
You learn to build a wall by showing how to put bricks together, not by showing a house and scolding the worker who has never seen a brick in his life for not being able to do it.
𝑻𝒂𝒌𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒕𝒊𝒎𝒆 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒉 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒑 𝒃𝒚 𝒔𝒕𝒆𝒑, 𝒕𝒐 𝒈𝒖𝒊𝒅𝒆 𝒉𝒊𝒎 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒔𝒕𝒂𝒈𝒆𝒔.
When the emotions get involved
Between the moment when a roadhog cut me up and the moment I’m calm again, minutes can pass. Between the moment a man threatens me with a cigarette three centimeters from my eye and the moment I’m calm again, hours can pass. Between the moment I hear someone dear to me is dead and I’m joyful again, weeks can pass.
Are you able to move from one emotional state to another of your own free conscious will ? If I tell you that you have won millions in a lottery game, and oblige you to remain nearly indifferent and calm, will you be able to do so ? For how long ? Will you just take it upon yourself or will you really feel calm in the long term ? Are you able to trust someone just because they tell you to do so ?
I often see cues made on dogs while they are in an emotional state that makes them unable to think of different behaviors, more desirable adaptations, or carry out recent learnings.
Managing one’s emotions requires more than words. It requires more than good will. If Doggy is not able to cope with a situation, the relationship you have established with him can be a key to guiding him.
Emotions: 😭😱😡😆🤢😳
have a function
are uncontrollable
are spontaneous
Even more than learning a behavior, t𝐡e𝐲 𝐚r𝐞 𝐥i𝐤e𝐥y t𝐨 𝐜h𝐚n𝐠e h𝐨w y𝐨u𝐫 𝐝o𝐠 𝐩e𝐫c𝐞i𝐯e t𝐡e e𝐧v𝐢r𝐨n𝐦e𝐧t o𝐫 𝐬p𝐞c𝐢f𝐢c e𝐥e𝐦e𝐧t𝐬. The foundation of a behavior, if rooted in a specific emotion, is what prompts it. Altering only the behavior is like rubbing the tip of an iceberg alone.
When they are felt over and over, emotions can transform at the cerebral level. It has been observed that the brains of traumatized beings function differently than those of non-traumatized ones. It is then a matter of ʀᴇ-sʜᴀᴘɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴏɴɴᴇᴄᴛɪᴏɴs ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʟᴇᴀᴅ Dᴏɢɢʏ ᴛᴏ ᴘᴇʀᴄᴇɪᴠᴇ ᴅɪғғᴇʀᴇɴᴛʟʏ. This doesn't happen in the blink of an eye.
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